I am so excited to have been invited to be the author of this column on Relationships in The Brick Magazine. The truth is there is POWER in our relationships! Our ability to connect, create, and contribute in all areas of our lives is dependent upon the quality of relationships we have, and the ways we cultivate and nurture them. Through my monthly articles, I’ll discuss all types of relationships and the nuances of each, hoping to bring an intriguing, unique tidbit or two into to your awareness for reflection. So here we go!

With the holiday season upon us, a time of celebration and renewal, why not start it off by celebrating YOU! Honoring the relationship you have with yourself, in 3 fundamental ways, I guarantee this will set a festive and profoundly powerful tone for the rest of this special season, and into the new year ahead. The first key to celebrating yourself is being committed to registering your experience by slowing down and noting your emotions, body sensations, thoughts, needs, and desires. These elements of “self-buzz” are within us all the time, yet how often do you blast right past this treasure chest of personal information? Celebrating yourself means mindfully valuing what is happening within sweet, wonderful, amazing YOU. The emphasis here is on the word valuing.

Celebrating yourself means valuing the full range of your inner and outer experience, the shadow parts as well as the delicious aspects. As women, we are typically masters at perceptively recognizing what others in our inner circles are going through yet we so often neglect giving ourselves similar recognition. Begin this holiday season with a ferocious commitment to register your experiences at all times. Once you get used to registering your experience, you are primed for the second key to celebrating yourself, practicing self-compassion! Why not infuse the way you think about yourself with ever-present warmth and care? Compassion means sympathetic concern for the suffering of beings.

You are one of those beings, and giving yourself the same empathy you would another, in any and all situations, is an essential way to celebrate yourself. Imagine the yummy feeling of being loved by someone who is important to you. Under this spell, you experience gratitude, appreciation, warmth, comfort, and a general feeling of well-being. Now imagine turning all those heartfelt emotions on yourself as you cherish and love the person you are. Imagine wrapping yourself in a sweet embrace. Soften into yourself. Wow! Magical, yes? And remember, the power is in the relationship you have with YOU! So, if you have diligently registered your experience, and practiced self-compassion, we are on to the third key for celebrating yourself. The third key is to take who you are, in full authenticity, into the moment before you.

Practice cultivating the ultimate in loving-kindness toward yourself while standing in your truth. Your energy will flow freely and powerfully. Embracing and expressing your true spirit is a grand way to celebrate yourself. You waste precious energy when you fake, back away from, or force your way of being. The world is always made better by the joyful expansion of the YOU that is manifesting every day. So celebrate yourself by fearlessly bringing the truth, the essence of who you are, into the present. Take a moment and enjoy feeling good in your body, say what you are thinking instead of keeping it hidden, reach out and hug that friend you care about but often get shy around.

In other words, let your exquisite light shine bright this holiday season. This light will then guide you magnificently into the New Year ahead!

Maria Sylvester, MSW, CPC is a certified Life Coach who loves empowering adolescents, adults, and couples to live from the HEART of what really matters to them so that they can bring their fully expressed, vibrant selves into the world. She has a special gift for helping women reclaim their feminine power, and embrace their radiant, sensual, sexy spirits. Their lives transform. They soar into their mid-life magnificence!

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