December 2021

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By Maria Sylvester, MSW, CPC

If you’re desiring a quick trick to manifest your heart’s longings — to live what really matters to you — read on! The secret is contained in your daydreams, my friend. Daydreams are those thoughts, fantasies, or dream-like images and musings that cross our minds repeatedly as we go about our daily activities.

All too frequently, we view these colorful ideas as interruptions to our train of thought. We write off our daydreams as silly distractions interfering with what we have to do. Often, we flat-out ignore our daydreams. Bad idea — they reveal rich, intuitive wisdom. 

Our daydreams take many forms. They can be elaborate stories you weave for yourself, or a song you keep hearing in your mind. Or maybe you have recurring simple images you can’t shake, like seeing yourself riding in a convertible with the top down and the wind wildly blowing your hair. Always be on the lookout for daydreams popping up in multiple creative ways!

Be Ever-Mindful

Your daydreams are the remnants of your essential self that you’re being called upon to reclaim. Listen carefully to these soul-whispers and the crucial messages they contain. Each and every element of your daydreams reveal a treasure worthy of being mined — worthy of being contemplated. 

I always encourage my coaching clients to be very appreciative and respectful of each passing daydream, to slow down and listen. In simply noting and reflecting on the dream’s content, you’re gifted valuable information that can lead you back home to yourself and to a happier, more satisfying life.

From Disconnection to Integration

I believe we all know, at our core, what we value, long for, and need. Yet amid the craziness of our action-packed, fast-moving, busy lives — filled-to-overflowing with more doing than feeling — we can become emotionally disconnected from ourselves. We end up feeling frazzled and unmoored from our truth. We become off-centered.

It’s our daydreams, those flickering, quickly passing images, thoughts, and fantasies, that if carefully considered, can lead us back to our souls’ priorities. So gather up those festive details, trusting that if you follow the bread-crumb-laden path, you’ll be well on your way to the integration of your authentic energy, spirit, and life force.

Personal Example

These ideas I’ve just mentioned may be best understood by sharing a personal example. Right after my first husband and I decided to consciously uncouple, and officially committed to do so, I started having a really elaborate daydream. This little fantasy would pop into my mind all. The. Time. Non-stop. It was wild. I couldn’t resist paying attention to it. I also spent a lot of time considering what it was trying to tell me.

The daydream placed me in Italy, wearing a lovely, sexy, red silk sundress. In the dream I’m strolling, early-evening, through cobblestone streets until I stumble upon a quiet, romantic little courtyard café. I sit down at a tiny table for two. Feeling relaxed, beautiful, luxurious, and completely enchanted by the setting — including the canopy of sparkling lights over head — I order a glass of red wine. Within minutes it arrives, along with a gorgeous, tall, dark, handsome-as-hell Italian gentleman. He extends his hand lovingly, asking me to slow dance with him to the beautiful music being played by a string quartet in the corner of the restaurant. We dance, moving sensually and deliciously close together for a long time. The daydream continues on in wonderful ways that, for the sake of this writing, I’m going to leave to your imagination! 

Awakened Insights

Realizing that I was having a repetitive daydream that wasn’t going away, I spent time contemplating each and every element contained within it. I realized that intuitively, this daydream was elegantly calling me to step back into my feminine energy and power. Now this was notable, because one reason my husband and I decided to divorce (and the main reason for me) related to a behavioral pattern from which I seemed unable to extricate myself. Specifically, in our years-long relationship dance, I was the main organizer, planner, strategizer, goal-setter, and plain-old “doer” in the partnership. In other words, for us to function as a couple, I felt I had to suppress a more sensual part of myself.

In this union, the way our dynamics worked, it felt near-impossible for me to lean back, to actively surrender and feel cared for, cherished, and supported. I longed to do less and feel more. Yet, I had become completely disconnected from this feminine energy.

It really should’ve come as no surprise, then, that the minute my husband and I decided to free ourselves from our marital partnership, the possibility of re-embracing my feminine energy would surface in the form of a magnificent, fun daydream. 

It was a daydream set in a place I’d always longed to visit — the land of my ancestors — in the context of a relationship dance that would help me literally and figuratively find my proper balance and footing! I desired to feel seen, sought after, and lovingly connected with. The daydream exquisitely laid out for me my next steps. Thank heavens I paid attention!

From Insight to Manifestation

I’m delighted to report that after several years of deliberately heeding the wisdom of that daydream, I slowly but surely reclaimed my radiant, sensual, sexy, feminine presence. And the best part: I called in a tall, bald, and handsome beloved who is now my husband and soulmate. 

Together, we actually did journey to Italy, and we shared the adventure of a lifetime! It was a first visit for both of us. We reveled in the beauty and sensualness of a country ripe with olives, incredible marble statues, ancient churches, mosaics, brilliant seas, fuchsia flowers, and oh, those cappuccinos. Not to mention the incredible Amalfi Coast!

And yet, it was in a quiet little Italian café, sharing red wine and pasta, gazing across at my love, that I wept, my heart feeling so, so full. In that simple yet profound moment, I realized I had brought my daydream to life — only it was ten times better than I had imagined.

And so, my friend, let this little tale inspire you to notice and attend to each and every daydream you find yourself in. Listen carefully. Intuitive guidance awaits you there — and maybe even your own adventure of a lifetime!


Maria Sylvester, MSW, CPC is a certified Life Coach in Ann Arbor, MI who loves empowering
adolescents, adults, and couples to live from the HEART of what really matters to them so that
they can bring their fully expressed, vibrant selves into the world. She has a special gift for helping
women reclaim their feminine power, and embrace their radiant, sensual, sexy spirits. Their lives
transform. They soar into their mid-life magnificence!